If you're ready to shack up before you say "I do" you may be getting an earful from friends or family members who think you should wait for marriage to move in together.
"Tradition
is strong. Many people are still the first generation to live together
and whenever you break tradition, you've got questions to answer and
judgment to be passed."
But there are serious
advantages to bucking tradition and living together before you tie the
knot. Here, our experts share five, so you can make the right decision
for you.
1. You get familiar with chore-play
In
case you haven't heard, sharing household responsibilities such as the
dishes and laundry is the hottest form of foreplay. And when you live
together before you tie the knot, you have the chance to experience
sharing those chores and their respective benefits.
Not
only that, but you can problem solve and collaborate as partners in
terms of finding a fair balance rather than wait to work that out after
the wedding.
2. You can see what marriage will really be like
Let's
face it: "Marriage isn't all romance. Many couples don't understand the
mundane day to day living involved in a long-term commitment, and
living together before marriage gives them a chance to try on this
commitment before sealing the deal with a marriage.
By
living together before you tie the knot, boring, everyday life won't
take you by surprise. No matter how mature, how educated and how
experienced you may think you are, the day to day living in a long-term,
committed relationship is less romance than it is managing two lives
combined. Always remember that marriage is not always a bed of roses there so many thorns to fight and cut down.
3. You discover whether your living habits are compatible
When
you live together before you get married, you find out whether your
neat freak self can really stand to share close quarters with your
disorganized and often messy partner. You'll find out how tolerant you
can be, as well as how upset you each get at your various differences.
Your
lifestyle habits extend past your waking hours, though, and living
together also means learning to sleep together. You can learn to balance
and adapt to each other's sleep schedules.
You
can start to figure out options for handling your differences and needs,
and how this will affect your sexual life e.g. setting aside time for
sex if you're on opposite schedules.
4. You get intimate with your partner's spending habits
Your spending
habits never seemed to be an issue when you were dating, but living
together brings money to the forefront. From who pays for what to how
you'll split your bills, getting familiar with your finances before you
tie the knot can save you from financial fights in the future.
Learning
about each other's money habits and values often happen when you live
together. This is invaluable information. If you take three extensions
on tax returns and then decide to blow them off for a year because you
probably won't get caught and he files in February of every year,
you've got some ground to cover as a couple that you probably didn't
know about before living together, and you should before marrying,
according to brides.com
5. You can feed one another's sexual appetites
You
have the opportunity to see what your sexual appetites are once you're
together all the time. Once you live together, you're able to be
sexually intimate every day, if you like.
And if
you don't want to get down every day, she says, it's good to learn that
before you tie the knot. You'll get to know each other's level of desire
and find a balance in terms of frequency so you can both feel good
about your sexual life together.
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